August 20, 2016

And...Here We Go Again!


There are many of you that know already, but it seems like it was time to be open about it. We are trying this emotional roller-coaster ride called a pregnancy again. Normally Lady Hiva and I have already told people because we have moved from a foreign country at an early stage for her care. This time, however, we haven't had to move, so we have been quiet about it.

To be truthful, with all that we have experienced trying to get a child here, Lady Hiva and I approach this journey with realistic apprehension. When people find out they are excited and congratulate us. Neither of us know what to say because until we hit 30 weeks of gestation we will continue to hold our breath.


We did not even tell Lucky Dragon for a long time. He is intelligent enough to understand so that was not the reason...actually, in a way, maybe it is the reason. He is so smart that if we started to tell him and then the baby does not make it, it may be harder to explain why. However, at the first appointment when they did an ultrasound that secret went right out the window. He came with us and knew we were at the doctor's office. He kept asking us if "mommy was sick?" and was confused when we told him she wasn't. He contentedly played with his truck as we talked until they did the ultrasound and the heart beat was heard. The technician said, "There is the baby's heart beat." He perked right up, looked at the screen, listened and saw that they were doing the ultrasound on Lady's stomach and said, "Mommy, there is a baby in your stomach?"

From that day forward we have heard him pray for the baby when he prays for the rest of our family and he is constantly talking about the baby.

So here we go! We have past the 15 week mark this week. Well on the way to the half-way mark. If all goes well the baby will come the last week of January or the first week of February 2017.  I truly hope and pray we make it that far!

Lady Hiva is such a brave person. She knows how hard this has been emotionally for both of us, but she also has taken a terribly physical toll with each pregnancy. Her sacrifice is far greater than mine. But she wanted to try one more time. So here we are.

She had her cerclage placed a few weeks ago, which is good news on hand because the doctors feel the baby and Lady are healthy enough to continue the pregnancy. However, it is hard on Lady. It sounds incredibly painful and she is limited in her activities. I sat there listening to the doctor after they did the surgery talk about all the scar tissue she has from other pregnancies and cerclages, and I thought how brave she is--even though she would never admit it.

We will keep you posted as we go along. But it is nice to know others understand so they don't think I am just a nagging husband when I am constantly telling her to stop lifting, stop pushing and stop doing too much (something she loves--said with heavy sarcasm). She is so independent she doesn't ask for help which means if I am not right there to do what she needs she does it...sigh.

Tau'aho is excited and so are we (cautiously). Let's get a another little one here.



August 17, 2016

Cowboy in Lime Green Tennis Shoes

We took our Lucky Dragon to participate in a rodeo. This is something that we all did growing up and luckily Uncle Beau-D and cousins have kept up the tradition. Tau'aho was SO excited to participate!

Beau-D had him watch as he led Kaleia around the barrels on the new (but old in age) pony they had bought--Pumkin. Then it was his turn! Uncle Larry came by and gave him instructions to hold onto the horse by squeezing his legs. Beau-D ran him around the barrels, much to Tau'aho's surprise, he liked it. Beau-D started to run at the end to make Pumpkin go faster and Pumpkin did a few bucks in the air. Later, as we talked about it Beau-D surmised the people that had Pumpkin before him only had slow meandering walks with their kids on her. Lucky Dragon, on the other hand, was quite animated about it. He told me that he "didn't get bucked off because he was squeezing his legs!" I was shocked by that because I didn't think he was really listening to Larry with all the distractions of a rodeo going on. I asked him if he rode the bucking horse like CoBurn and he quickly, and very seriously, responded, "No, I'm not as good as CoBurn." HAHA.
Best Friends---sometimes best frenemies









Ride'em cowboy! (or faux-cowboy anyway)



The next day he woke up and I asked him if he was going to ride Pumpkin in the next rodeo and he said, "No, I will ride Buckstripe." Now Buckstripe has been in the family for years and many of us rodeoed on her when we were younger. I was surprised Tau'aho knew her name and was sure he was going to ride her. Luckily, Beau-D even brought her to the rodeo.

The kids 'roped the calf' an activity that Lucky Dragon absolutely refused to participate in and would hide behind his mum's leg when they called his name. The other kids had fun though.



 






The next event was untying a ribbon on the goat's tail. To do this the child rides the horse in, jumps off the horse, runs to the goat and unties the ribbon on its tail. We sat and watched, with Buckstripe ready, as all of the other children did it. He decided, maybe because his best friend/cousin went into a tantrum when she went out (because her boot had fallen off and he dad had put her in the dirt with only her socks on)  but I was not sure.
Mad and bootless...

Putting on the boot...still mad

Now embarrassed

When they called his name I told him it was time to go and he started to refuse and would not give me the truck he had been playing in the dirt together. So screaming Dragon and all, I put him up in the saddle and took off running (there was no Lady Hiva for him to hide behind this time. I had conveniently staged her at the other end of the arena to 'take photos'). His protests and cries quickly turned into smiles and cheers of "go faster!" as he realized he liked it. When we arrived at the goat I asked him if he was going to pull the ribbon off and he said he was and, to my surprise, he jumped off and ran up to the goat to pull the ribbon off. (Truck in hand and all) Although he did do it with two fingers as if he was pulling off a stinky or disgusting piece of cloth and quickly dropped it. That night as we were driving in the car he told me, "Daddy, I pulled that orange ribbon off that goat's muli!" ("butt" in Tongan) And started to laugh hysterically.
He was yelling at me





Task complete, truck in hand and all

The last event he did was barrels. Again, he was unsure about going to start, but as we began he liked it. Instead of just going around the barrels in a clover pattern as you are supposed to he want to "boom the barrels and knock them down!" Haha. My job was to run along side Buckstripe and try to keep her from taking off at a full run as she normally would do.






Daddy, let's knock it over




Showing off the money they "won" at the rodeo


It was fun to watch everyone participate. Watching my generation, with their kids so much older than Lucky Dragon, help their children learn how much to enjoy the sport we all grew up doing. Who would have known that years ago we, who competed against each other, would be there cheering on our kids doing the same thing? It was even fun for our city boy who was wearing lime green tennis shoes and a t-shirt and his dad that was dressed similar--hehe


















And no trip is complete without a trip into the mountains--and a chance to get into that water!